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The Importance of Being a Friend to Others, and Seeing God in Everyone
that We Meet!
One day, when I was a freshman in high school, I saw a kid from my class
was walking home from school. His name was Kyle. It looked like he was
carrying all of his books. I thought to myself, 'Why would anyone bring
home all his books on a Friday? He must really be a nerd.
I had quite a weekend planned (parties and a football game with my friends
tomorrow afternoon), so I shrugged my shoulders and went on. As I was
walking, I saw a bunch of kids running toward him. They ran at him,
knocking all his books out of his arms and tripping him so he landed in
the dirt. His glasses went flying, and I saw them land in the grass about
ten feet from him. He looked up and I saw this terrible sadness in his
eyes.
My heart went out to him. So, I jogged over to him as he crawled around
looking for his glasses, and I saw a tear in his eye. As I handed him his
glasses, I said, 'Those guys are jerks.' They really should get lives.' He
looked at me and said, 'Hey thanks!' There was a big smile on his face. It
was one of those smiles that showed real gratitude. I helped him pick up
his books, and asked him where he lived. As it turned out, he lived near
me, so I asked him why I had never seen him before. He said he had gone to
private school before now.
I would have never hung out with a private school kid before. We talked
all the way home, and I carried some of his books.
He turned out to be a pretty cool kid. I asked him if he wanted to play a
little football with my friends. He said yes.
We hung out all weekend and the more I got to know Kyle, the more I liked
him, and my friends thought the same of him.
Monday morning came, and there was Kyle with the huge stack of books
again. I stopped him and said, 'Boy, you are gonna really build some
serious muscles with this pile of books everyday!' He just laughed and
handed me half the books.
Over the next four years, Kyle and I became best friends. When we were
seniors we began to think about college. Kyle decided on Georgetown and I
was going to Duke. I knew that we would always be friends, that the miles
would never be a problem.
He was going to be a doctor and I was going for business on a football
scholarship. Kyle was valedictorian of our class.
I teased him all the time about being a nerd. He had to prepare a speech
for graduation. I was so glad it wasn't me having to get up there and
speak.
Graduation day, I saw Kyle. He looked great. He was one of those guys that
really found himself during high school. He filled out and actually looked
good in glasses. He had more dates than I had and all the girls loved him.
Boy, sometimes I was jealous! Today was one of those days. I could see
that he was nervous about his speech. So, I smacked him on the back and
said, 'Hey, big guy, you'll be great!' He looked at me with one of those
looks (the really grateful one) and smiled. ' Thanks,' he said.
As he started his speech, he cleared his throat, and began 'Graduation is
a time to thank those who helped you make it through those tough years.
Your parents, your teachers, your siblings, maybe a coach...but mostly
your friends.... I am here to tell all of you that being a friend to
someone is the best gift you can give them. I am going to tell you a
story.'
I just looked at my friend with disbelief as he told the first day we met.
He had planned to kill himself over the weekend.
He talked of how he had cleaned out his locker so his Mom
wouldn't have to do it later and was carrying his stuff home. He looked
hard at me and gave me a little smile. 'Thankfully, I was saved. My friend
saved me from doing the unspeakable..' I heard the gasp go through the
crowd as this handsome, popular boy told us all about his weakest moment.
I saw his Mom and dad looking at me and smiling that same grateful smile.
Not until that moment did I realize it's depth. Never underestimate the
power of your actions. With one small gesture you can change a person's
life. For better or for worse. God puts us all in each others lives to
impact one another in some way. Look for God in others.
'Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble
remembering how to fly.' There is no beginning or end.. Yesterday is
history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift.
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